Tuesday, April 8, 2014

Thoughts From the Second Day with Isaac


Isaac Day 2               

Two nights with Isaac and so far so good.  We moved into a new room, actually a suite of rooms with 3 living areas, 3 beds, two couches, a dinning table, 2 bathrooms, a kitchen and a washing machine.  No dryer for the washing machine, but that seems about right for China.  Last night I mostly slept and I feel like a new woman.

The computer system for our province is back up and running and we are heading to Isaac’s town today.  We will not be seeing the orphanage.  We don’t want Isaac to be back in SWI for several reasons and I think, based on his size and general health and the testimony of others, I can draw some educated conclusions.  There are just too many things in life we see that we wish we hadn’t and I don’t care to add this to my list.

Isaac seems to be content with his new life.  He calls me momma and Veldon “d dd” or something like that. Momma was easy because it’s very close to the Chinese word for mother, but daddy isn’t.  He’s trying though.  He wasn’t sure about Max to begin with, but he likes him now and tries to play with him and interact.

Max is struggling, as expected.  He is working hard to figure out his place.  He feels threatened and dethroned and we are working to be patient with him.  He tries to imitate everything Isaac does that we all coo over, it’s cute when a 4 yr old the size of a 1 yr old does something, it’s kind of awkward when a 7 yr old, the size of a 7 yr old tries to do the same thing.  But we expected this and more, and we are prepared to walk the road with him. I still believe this is the best thing in the world for Max, and obviously there’s no doubt this is right for Isaac.




Home

So my blog was one of the casualties of the crazy China internet. It seems we could get on but our connection wouldn't last long enough for a post with pictures or it was so late in the night that I couldn't stay awake for the download to finish and it would be bumped.

We're home now and I'll try to recap for posterity...because so many people in the future will be reading this silly little blog. HA

I will preface my recap with some words.  We didn't love China. We fell in love with Thailand. Maybe that's why we struggled more in China because we loved Thailand so much and expected a similar experience.  It was vastly different, that's fine. I think one of my biggest frustrations was being placed in 5 star hotels, that were obviously very expensive, by someone else with no say in the matter.  Then to be treated badly at the hotel you are paying for, which you really can't afford, creates more than normal frustration.  Every time a door was let go in our face by a bellhop I thought about the amount of money we had to spend. Every time we were ignored at breakfast I thought about the amount of money we were spending and it was frustrating. I have no western ideas of needing to be served. Heaven knows I'm not spoiled at home, nor would I want to be, but I also would never willingly spend the amount of money we did. When we got to our last town I was so excited for rest, for a comfortable atmosphere, to enjoy the remainder of our time in China.  That's not really what we found.  It's fine, we were stretched and the ultimate goal of getting our boy was achieved.  We did enjoy many parts of China, but we didn't love it.

This was our family's journey. This was our experience.  The hard memories will fade and we'll remember laughing with new friends, crazy food adventures and rain rain rain. This isn't about anyone else but the 7 of us, 5 who traveled and 2 who held down the fort in Georgia.  My family's adoption of Isaac is about him and bringing him home.  If my experience in China bothers then I am truly sorry. I have to say I have no idea how my family's adoption has anything to do with anyone beyond the walls of our home....perhaps extended family. So I invite you to read our blog and look at our pictures and if my opinions don't align with yours maybe that doesn't mean either of us are wrong.



 
The smog in China was amazingly bad, every bit as bad as the worst we had heard.  You could barely see a block from any direction.  Interestingly the Chinese government tells their citizens that the smog problem is from LA that American is polluting China. 


 
 Civil Affairs office completing adoption paperwork.


Our sweet friend Tracy and her son Tao. Max and Tao were fast friends.

PS I'm jet lagged to please excuse all the errors! :)